Your ex lover Boyfriend – Do You Know Why he or she Keeps Rejecting You?

Most breakups come as a shock and that is what is apt to throw you into an emotional tailspin. You may spend hours trying to figure out what you did in order to offend the man you love. Then you holiday resort to texting and calling him in an effort to get him to talk. All of your efforts end up by leaving you using a feeling of futility and you turn out to be convinced that you have lost him permanently.

However men don’ t react exactly like woman and what you think is the problem might not be close to what is bothering your ex boyfriend. This is why you need to understand how your ex thinks and start pulling him back instead of pushing him farther aside. First of all no matter how you beg him, your ex boyfriend is not going to simply tell you what is wrong. Men just don’ t do that.

In fact the reason he is constantly on the reject you could be that he is scared he might weaken and tell you the truth. However , there are ways that you can get within his mind and find the problem with no him having any clue in regards to what you are doing. This is nothing more than using man psychology to get your ex boyfriend to come out associated with his shell and talk to you and it is much easier than you think.

Right now he may be as disappointed and sorry about the breakup when you are, but men have a large ego and if he suddenly told you he had produced a mistake, it might make him seem weak in front of his buddies. Should your ex be like most men he has been telling his friends over a few ales about how he dumped you and you simply won’ t leave him by itself. No matter how much he wants you back, he can’ t permit himself to come begging you to forgive him.

Another reason for him rejecting you may be fear of commitment. Many men fear the obligation that comes with having a home and household. As long as you keep telling him you love him he has no fear of shedding you and so he will take his time getting back with you. The problem is which he might find someone else and never come back.

Things are usually apt to change abruptly if you provide him a reason to believe you have had enough and are moving on. Since it is well known that men will go after what they think they have lost, you need to make him believe that he may be losing you. All it will take is for you to begin ignoring him and start going out with your pals. This is not an attempt to make your ex sweetheart jealous. You have to show him that you can have a life without him.

Some men never realize what they have till they are in danger of losing it. As soon as your ex sees how important you are in order to his happiness, you won’ big t be able to keep him away from you.

3 Responses to “Your ex lover Boyfriend – Do You Know Why he or she Keeps Rejecting You?”

  • sam N:

    My ex boyfriend of almost 3 years has torn me up and ripped me to pieces. I’ve loved this guy more then words can explain and I still love him. When we started dating he used to be so sweet, he treated me like I was a princess. He cheated on me with multiple women ad I forgave him. He took his anger out on me and dumped me multiple times when i didn’t even do anything to him (he was mad at other people so he took his anger out on me and later apologized and I took him back), he kicked me out of his house when I had nowhere to go, called me names, threw things at me, he used to choke me and push me to the floor, mentally abuse me, call me a burden tell me that no one cares about me, that i’m nothing to him. He chose his friends that he met a little over 2 months ago over me. He won’t spend time with me, I have to beg him to come see me. He could go weeks and not speak to me, only notice my importance when i’m gone and the only thing he could muster is a “Hi”. I did everything for him, i bent over backwards for him. I would do anything for him, I was the BEST girlfriend to him, all his friends complimented and everyone that knew him, knew I was great. Even his parents wanted us to get married, they told him I was the best thing for him but he treated me so bad. Recently I got tired of the problems and the mistreatment and I told him in a letter about how I feel. When i went to his house to talk to him about it to see if we could resolve it, he slammed the door in my face, told me I was nothing, told me he never loved me, that he could get over me in a heartbeat and that I don’t mean anything to him, that i’m no good for him. I feel so hurt. After he treated me so bad he thinks he’s right?? That I’M not good for HIM? The anger is killing me. He even had the audacity to block me on Facebook. I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, I keep crying, I can’t concentrate in school. How can he be so heartless? In my letter I was so sweet, hoping we can work things out but he turns so vicious. I forgave him SO many times and when I asked why he wouldn’t talk to me when I always gave him chances his reply was “just because you gave me chances, that was your choice, I don’t have to give you any chances and I won’t.” Why?? How do I move past this. He’s probably out with some other girls and i’m over here crying and dying over him. I don’t know what to do, I just feel like my life is over.

  • Kevin:

    i am just SO insecure of myself that i think that all the boys in the world could never like me, and reject me, that im afraid to ask becuz of that. I really need a new bf though. I keep clinging on to my ex, and hes NO GOOD! i need help. wat should i do?
    but what if they dont come to me? ive been doing that. Ive been getting in shape and all that and dressing nice. But he just wont ask me out!! i no he likes me. I know he doe, but he just wont ask me ut. im tired of waitng 4 him. why would it look bad on my resume?

  • Rkmc:

    My EX and I dated for 3 years. We were first-lovers. We were so comfortable with one another, we were 100% ourselves; something very hard to be. We were so open with our feelings.

    Unfortunately, college life got the best of him, and he started making poor choices, getting in the wrong crowd, and neglecting me. I broke up with him. We didn’t talk for about 3 months (we were somewhat enemies). Then, he started begging for me back. He would talk to my parents, text me, call me nonstop…ETC. I was so hurt by him, that I forced myself to move on.

    So now, I have a new boyfriend (of 5ish months) and I’m completely unhappy. I’m getting ready to break it off with him because I’m just not happy. My ex finally got a new girlfriend, and he appears very happy, other than the fact that he is slightly trying to make jealous (by seeing that he has a new gf).

    I am madly in love with him and I believe we’re soulmates. He was my first love and I was his, and we made so many promises to one another. I just don’t know if I should confess this to him and if he rejects, move on – or keep it to myself.

    I miss him so much, what should I do? I thought about making a CD with a song that describes how I feel, and mail it to him.

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